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Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Tantric Lovemaking and the Art of Kissing
A kiss is often the first intimate physical contact that you have with a possible new lover or partner. From a kiss a person can often tell what kind of a lover you are or at least some say they can. Some people can reach orgasm by kissing alone. Not wanting to be kissed by your partner can be a signal of trouble in the relationship. If a kiss feels wrong, many women will just say good-bye to the guy.
Unfair you say. Well maybe not. You see from a Tantric perspective kissing is a powerful way to awaken, arouse and titillate your lover. To become a great kisser is really to become an artist with ones tongue and mouth.
Now I know this may sound fairly easy. I mean after all most of you have been kissing in one way or another for years and there are many variations of this theme. But what I am addressing here is the art of kissing to release the nectar that resides within the tantric subtle body as well as the electrical current that runs from the mouth to other erogenous zones.
Making kissing a daily ritual will juice up your relationship and re-ignite your passion. There are many different kinds of kisses: slow, wet, quick, deep, hard, soft, breathy, and then there is Tantric kissing. Kiss your lover at least twice a day and experiment with these different kinds of kisses. (Dr. Ava Cadell)
1. The Tantric Kiss - In this kiss you are actually breathing in your partner's breath. You are not using tongues or any movement of any kind, but rather you share breath together. This kiss is very intimate. What could be more intimate that sharing the breath of your lover? This kiss can bring you into a state of harmony and flow with your partner. You forget time and space and are just breathing in and out with each other. To begin with, sit in Yab Yum or lie prone facing each other. Legs can be wrapped around each other or whatever way is most comfortable. Then, just touching lips, exhale into your lover's mouth as they inhale your breath. Then your lover exhales while you inhale. It may take some practice to get the flow moving easily, but once achieved it is truly a kiss from heaven. Keep in contact with your lover by maintaining eye contact at least every now and then. I have found that I generally will close my eyes and just lose myself in the rhythm of our breathing.
2.Butterfly Kissing - Begin by very lightly and gently kissing your partner's face, exploring their chin, cheeks, nose, eyelids and forehead with your lips. Take your time and build the energy. Like the wings of a butterfly your lips move over your lover's face. Lightly kiss your partner's lips. Take your tongue and brush gently over them. Then just gently kiss your partner's lips from one corner to the other, sweet and flickering.
3. Libation Kiss - To release the nectar from your partner's subtle body, take your tongue and rub it gently along the inside of their upper lip. The nectar is not saliva, but is warm and watery and stimulates the release of a 'sexual dew' that spills down through the body from the crown or uppermost chakra. In tantra remember you are not only working in the physical body but also the energetic and subtle bodies.
4. The Slow Deep Kiss - Now put your heart and body into a slow kiss alternating the pressure from gentle to deep with mouth slightly open.
5. The Nibble Kiss - Kiss your partner and gently nibble on their lower lip. This will send a jolt of electricity directly to the nipples or yoni of a woman, and to the lingam of a man.
6. Sucking Kiss - Wrap your lips around your lover's tongue and suck passionately alternating your speed from slow to quick.
7. Exploratory Kiss - Explore the inside of your lover's mouth with your tongue by running it in small and large circles.
8. Quick Silver Kiss - Dart your tongue in and out of your lover's mouth rapidly and then slowly as if you were having intercourse. Remember to use your entire body and make all those wonderful sounds of love.
9. Melting Kiss - Begin by kissing gently. Then relax your lips, open your mouth just a bit and go deeper. Allow your mouth to melt into your partner's and your tongue to relax. This type of kiss is truly my favorite. No one is directing it, and you and your partner can just flow with each other.
Remember to be creative and find if you like try chocolate, liquors or fruit when kissing, it can be a bit messy but oh so delicious..
The art of kissing takes lots and lots of practice. So create time with your lover or partner to kiss often. Kiss when you are walking down the street together. Kiss when you are waiting in the elevator. Kiss when you are walking the dog, cooking, doing the wash, when you first wake up and when you go to sleep. Practice, practice, practice. Try all of the above and invent a few of your own kissing techniques. And remember to have fun.
If you would like to study the art of kissing even more, why not try a kissing class at the Loveolog University.
Luminessa Enjara is a writer for the Examiner.com at http://www.examiner.com/x-6924-SF-Tantra-Examiner She is also a web writer for e-How and other sites and writes two blogs Yonispeak and Templesisterhood both at Blogger.com
Luminessa is a teacher of women's sexuality, priestess and the founder of The School of Womyn's Mysteries at: http://www.womensmysteries.org. She is a shamanic counselor and spiritual guide as well as a gifted Akashic Record reader. Readings are available by phone and in person.
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Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Kissing Tips - Are You a Good Kisser?
Fifty-two percent of women responded that they believe men need to improve their skill at kissing - the same percentage that would stop dating a man if she thought he was a bad kisser.
These responses are based on women's experiences. What one woman judges to be a good kiss may be quite different from what another woman may think. Don't presume you know what she wants - be aware and conscious of her response and adjust accordingly.
This is where the "listening" with your mouth and body comes in - be in tune with her body language. If she's pulling away or stopping the kiss short - something is not working for her. If you're interested in her and want to move the relationship forward, pick up on her cues or you may find yourself out in the cold. If she seems uninterested, don't be afraid to ask her how she would like to be kissed - it may be the best question you ever asked!
Some responses from an online survey get the message across:
- They need to learn to adapt to each woman.
- Some do, some don't.
- Some guys got it, some guys learn.
- We need a foundation for this, I think. Too many men are missing out or maybe not making their woman (and themselves) happy.
- I think they need to be more conscientious about how women like to be kissed. They tend to kiss how they like to kiss or be kissed.
- I'd have to say half the men I kissed didn't kiss very well.Are you listening to what she wants in a kiss?
Peg Sausville created an online survey for women about what they want in kissing. Over 300 women responded to the survey and from those responses she wrote the book, "The Truth About How to Kiss Women." These women provided insider information on what they really want and are looking for in the kissing experience. Their responses were unfiltered and candid. Don't lose out again - get the girl by giving her the kisses she wants! And women, if you know a man who needs a little education, this is the perfect book for him - he'll learn what to do and what not to do - what turns her on and what turns her off - and the thing he should NEVER do when kissing a woman.
Sunday, February 7, 2010
Tips on Kissing Or Kissing on Tips? How About You Decide
The first kiss between two people says so much. The Hard Kiss is with passionate intent. The Deep Kiss is the kiss of two people who know each other inside and out and love it. There is even a sideways kiss, if you can imagine it. These are some of my tips on kissing that are a good beginning and sometimes just fun reading.
The mouth is a funny thing sometimes. Kisses are a resounding and eloquent way of using your mouth to say something without making a sound. Kisses are also significant of so many symbolic gestures and phrases of speech, that it is no wonder kissing can make or break the decision on continuing a relationship with you. This can all be determined simply by the way you kiss.
Kissing is important to women, and even though men say, 'not so much', I do not believe it. If a woman kisses all crazy and weird; then I bet, that even if it were the only problem, the 'guy' would still leave. The woman would simply teach the guy how to kiss and provide him with tips on kissing her. Just the way she wants. Which is obviously the smarter move. But for the most part, the KISS, decides whether or not there will be any more, 'getting to know you' or not. Therefore, it is crucial.
One problem.... There is more than one way to kiss.
Although, there are many ways of kissing and kissing well, there are still some general guidelines to follow in order to make the kiss worth the while. First tip, is to take is slow. Slowly find out what is acceptable and what is reciprocal. If you just jump on in there and start waggling your tongue, I bet you a dollar that you never kiss that person again!
The First Kiss, is the most important kiss of all. It should always be slow and soft, gentle, meek and testing in nature. Gently press your lips together with slow and deliberate care. Do not open the mouth of the one you are kissing but let both of your mouths open each others naturally. Then, proceed with still gentle caresses of very slow movement, licking each others tongue.
The Hard Kiss, is genuinely the kiss of two people who have kissed before. And sometimes this kiss is the result after a long absence. Usually done in passion, after a long wait then, suddenly together. This can be tender but still not forceful. Nothing beyond what is being arrived at between the two tongues. Even in passion, everything should be on equal ground, in order for the kissing to be good. The hard kiss can come from the building up of anticipation, until both of the kissers, just cannot take it any longer. Then, they kiss hard.
Deep Kissing, is the act of expressive connection. It also ends just how it sounds, deep inside the mouth. Most kisses should begin slow and build. When kissing someone that you really love, try to begin softly by kissing their lower lip. Then, work your way up to kissing of the whole, lips to lips kiss.
The Sideways Kiss, kissing sideways is always the result of a long sensual kiss. This is one of my favorites. After kissing for so long a spell and in so many excellent fashions, your faces inevitably turn a little, while lips still connecting, to face the same direction. Cheek to cheek while flickering each others tongues together with the corners of your mouths' in full contact is just so sensual. It feels really erotic to me.
Tips on kissing should be more available to people. There are some really good kissers out there. It is a natural skill though I believe it can also be taught. Someone should teach the delicate art of kissing. That is just it though, it is delicate, and that is a good pointer on learning the basics. Kissing is delicate. Of course, this is just my opinion but; kissing is by far the most sensual act anyone two people can ever do or experience, when it comes to sex. It is also the most intimate way for two people to really connect with each other.
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